Requisite Cliff-Hanger Update

Turned out husband had appendicitis.

Terrible dehydration because he didn’t drink anything the night he spent in pain and confusion, then wasn’t allowed to eat or drink anything the full day while they were diagnosing him, and the full night after his surgery he couldn’t have anything either, which means more than 36 hours with nothing at all.

Had some mild complications after coming home after surgery, including a post-operative fever of 104 degrees that led to a trip back to the hospital by ambulance and another hospital stay for some IV antibiotics.

Finally made it home for good, and two of his ribs popped out a bit from his spine, sending his whole back into spasm.  Was super painful, and is still lingering.  Probably something to do with either drug-induced heavy sleeping, or contorting in a waiting room chair, or something his muscles did while he was convulsing from the fever or curled up in pain from the appendix.  Not fun.

Many, many, many nights without sleep for both of us, but he is now kind of sort of getting better.

I am hanging in there as well as I can with no sleep and tons of stress (neither of which are good for keeping this illness at bay).  But I’ve been the full-time caregiver in this house for the past week.  Am doing WAY better than I might have guessed (thank you, Equilibrant!), but I won’t say there wasn’t a point this past weekend where I was literally crying because my husband needed pillows under his legs to take the strain off his surgery site, and I realized they were all the way at the other end of the hall.  And I was lying on the floor, because my legs just would not carry me anymore no matter how hard I pushed.

It’s been a long time since I’ve reached that point.  But this time, thankfully, I recovered some eventually, and it didn’t become my new normal.  I’m resting every second I can, and not doing much else besides sleeping and fetching meals, but I’m getting through it, and I’m reasonably certain that I won’t have any major lasting damage as a result if all keeps going as it has been.  Of course, there’s no guarantee and very little predictability with this illness, but I’m hopeful that I should bounce back.

I have to bounce back.

Please, please let me bounce back.

But he is okay, and home, and safe, and that’s the most important thing by far.

Tags: , ,

6 Responses to “Requisite Cliff-Hanger Update”

  1. Kristal says:

    Oh honey…. I wish I could have helped take care of him for you and of course in turn, helped take care of you as well. xoxo

  2. Dr. Pullen says:

    Hang in there. It is amazing how sometimes being called into action to help someone you love can help you rise above your usual state. Hopefully you will be able to ride this experience into a better place longer term. Best of luck.

  3. Curiosity says:

    Oh, don’t I wish. Thank you for the comment.

    Unfortunately, the reality of this illness tends to mean that overexertion no matter how valiant or necessary or desirable will result in a backslide in overall functioning. I didn’t slide back all the way to where I was at my worst, but it’s been a couple months now, and I’m not yet back to where I was before this happened. Closer now, but not there yet.

    But the Equillibrant really has helped a ton. There was a time that activity like that would have put me way farther back than it did now. I still lost the use of my muscles for a while, and had the usual weakness, exhaustion, cognitive weirdness, CNS symptoms, etc, but there were MUCH less of the overwhelming flu symptoms than used to be typical for me during a crash. That’s a whole piece of the puzzle that just isn’t there in the same way anymore. And I can’t even tell you how wonderful that is. The difference is fantastic.

  4. It’s my blog’s one year anniversary and I just wanted to thank you from the deep depths of my weakly galloping heart for reading and giving me support this past year. It means so much and, even though I am still anxious about the messages/comments I didn’t have the energy to answer, please know I think about you all the time and send good vibes towards all my online friends during my daily meditations. Hoping you’re having an ok day. Elizabeth x

  5. Curiosity says:

    Thanks, Elizabeth! I think of you often too. Don’t worry yourself in the slightest about not replying to everything! Seriously, if anybody understands, it’s me, and I would much rather you save your energy for other things. …Which is probably advice I should take myself too, since I still feel guilty for not getting back to you about tons of stuff.

    Congratulations on the anniversary of your blog. I’m glad that you started it, and that we’ve had the chance to connect that way.

  6. Just Wanted To Say Hi And I’m Thinking About You And Hope You And YourHusband Are Ok!

Leave a Reply


9 − = five