It occurred to me the other day how much “Victoria’s Secret” sounds like “victorious egret.” I would probably buy a lot more underwear from a triumphant bird.
(in my defense, they do look kind of similar)
I wrote out the priorities for my life today. The point being to take note of them, and then try to make sure that my life, time, and money are going towards the things that are really important to me. It was supposed to be a list of things that really “make life worth living,” free from guilt, or potential judgment, and without concern for how big or small an item something might be. The results were relatively predictable, although some things definitely ranked much higher in importance than I might have thought they would. My top fifteen (I think):
- Quality time with my husband and a super-close relationship with him.
- Being creative (in a variety of random ways).
- Exploring new experiences (not so much the “leap from tall buildings” kind, but more the “hey, I’ve never had green tea ice cream or been to a rodeo!” kind).
- Weekend getaways (we’ve only done this a couple of times, but I LOVED it. I would very much love to be living a life in which we could take off to wine country and stay in a cute hotel, or go horseback riding, or get spa treatments once every couple of months. I think that would make a big difference to my stress level the rest of the time).
- Meals at nice restaurants (again, this is one of those things that would be fantastic to be able to do regularly. Is there anything better than talking together over crusty bread and a bottle of wine? I think not.)
- Laughter (lots of it. …This is probably actually much higher on the list, but laughter-related activities sort of go here, I think.).
- Our cats (because snuggling up with them is such a comfort right now, I can no longer imagine not having kitties around).
- Opportunities to shine (I know this one now, because I have worked at a job with no positive feedback of any kind. I need to do a good job with things. And I need to have somebody know it.).
- Games (video, board, or otherwise. …This one was a bit of a surprise to me, but as it turns out, it seems important. Yes, this makes me a geek. I have a blog on the internet, and I’m a geek! Who’d have guessed!?)
- Stretching my brain and/or learning new things (in case you didn’t catch that geek bit above).
- Pleasing surroundings (I have decided that I do not need a super-large house with super-expensive furnishings. …But I do ideally need an environment that does not create additional stress because it is broken or dirty or cramped).
- Good health (in the form of quality food, vitamins, exercise, etc.)
- Friends (yes, I know this is relatively low, but I don’t really have that many close friends right now. No guilt, dammit. …Do not even notice that “family” has not made the top fifteen. No noticing. Or I will say “no noticing” again.).
- Peace (in the form of yoga, meditation, tai chi, chi gong, or something similar).
- Paying people to do things that are unpleasant (I do not mind needing to do other things to make the money to do this. But in my ideal life, I am not mopping my own floor. Ever.)
It’s a pretty quick list, so don’t judge me too harshly, but I would say that it’s probably fairly representative of where I am right now. Of course, I expect that some things on there will change greatly over time, but for now it sums it up well. I wasn’t really expecting the trips away and nice meals out to be quite that important in the grand scheme of things, but I treasure those times, and they are definitely go-to items for lovely memories. Lovely memories are extremely important to me. Notably, working is not.
So…I don’t think I need to be fabulously wealthy in my dream life, which is good. But I do need to have enough free cash that I can drop a few hundred dollars on luxuries here and there without worrying. I also will apparently have nothing to show for it, as most of my large expenditures will be experienced or eaten. Still, I think I would be a lot happier and healthier all around if I was actually living in line with this. How nice would it be to come home from work knowing that there was something energizing and wonderful waiting for me? Too often when I was working full-time, I used to end up coming home completely drained and doing nothing but watching TV or otherwise killing time. Maybe if I was refueling more often with meaningful things, then I wouldn’t get too wiped out to do them.
Or maybe I just want to drink a lot and eat nice food.
That’s good too.
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