The Effexor doesn’t seem to be doing much good for me. …Either that, or MAN would I be messed up right now without it. To be honest, I really think it’s made me significantly worse, as these past few weeks have been the lowest I can remember, with no definable external reason. The couple of friends who can handle it (sort of) I’ve mentioned this to when I’ve seen them. It’s a difficult thing to explain to people who haven’t been there, and I worry that even with the best of intentions, it will be difficult for them to grasp accurately. I’m sure that if our roles were reversed I would try to be super supportive and sympathetic, but I don’t know that in the back of my brain there wouldn’t be the tiny thought that if they just tried a bit harder, or did a bit more, or [insert various other possibilities here] they could maybe improve things. …Or that if they REALLY wanted to, they could do this or that or the other thing. I don’t know that I would be able to fully believe it if I hadn’t gone through this stuff myself. Heck, I AM going through it and there are moments when I almost don’t believe it myself. Seriously? I’m lying on the floor? On the floor?? This is my activity??
It’s a tricky thing how much to tell different people. There’s still a lot of misperception out there about depression, and about the differences between capital D depression and extreme bouts of sadness or listlessness. I am on the floor because everything seems hopeless and this seems like the only place to be right now – extreme sadness. I am on the floor and I CANNOT SEEM TO MAKE MYSELF GET UP FOR PETE’S SAKE WHY WILL YOU NOT FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING GOOD JUST GET UP AND WHY IS THERE APPARENTLY NO PROPER PUNCTUATION IN MY INTERNAL MIND VOICE??? – capital D Depression.
As a nice added bonus to the Effexor, apparently the withdrawal effects are known for being particularly severe. I was delayed a few hours from my usual schedule in taking my pills one day last week, and I spent the ENTIRE REST OF THE DAY either gagging over the toilet or lying as still as possible on my sofa in order to avoid gagging over the toilet. The whole frigging day. Sheesh. No joke – all I did was watch whatever happened to air on the TV (as it got to a point that it really wasn’t worth the movement to change the channel), and moan like a drunken hippo. Out loud. With no one to hear me. On the plus side, I’ve become very punctual.
Our cats and ourselves are settling into the new house. There is still much unpacking to do, but it’s very livable now, and looks pretty much mostly like a real home. I am loving that. Our male cat has been exploring every nook and cranny with endless curiosity (which was not surprising). Our girl stayed in the bedroom for a week after he was already off and running, then emerged yesterday as the Queen of the World. Apparently she too has been doing some reflecting on her formerly passive ways. Her strategy seems to involve a lot of hissing, swatting, and complete lack of negotiation. Maybe I should try that at work. It does seem to be impressively effective thus far.
We’ve had a couple groups of friends up to see the new place too, which was refreshing. It rarely seemed worth it to have people over to the apartment when there were more spacious/nice/clean/centrally-located/what-have-you places to be. I think at heart I secretly love entertaining. Or at least using small and interesting dishware. That may be it too. No worry over turning too Martha Stewart though. I made up the guest room (we have a GUEST ROOM! How cool is that?? (The answer, my friends, is very cool. Very cool indeed.)) with quite clean but excessively wrinkled sheets. Sort of a modeled after a ball of aluminum foil kind of look. I am going to go with the explanation that that’s the cooking-product-related look that we were going for with the décor as a whole. You’re more likely to stop by and find that I’m raising giraffes than ironing sheets.